Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not been
here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old daugher who
keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?


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Ruben Figueroa wrote to ll on 09-01-18 00:00 <=-

Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not
been here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old
daugher who keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?

Handcuffs.... :)



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Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not been
here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old daugher who
keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?

No useful advice :-)

Nick

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Hello Ruben,

Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not been
here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old daugher who keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?

At some point a parent has to allow their son/daughter to make their own decisions. Those decisions may be either for the better or for the worse. One can only hope that you as a parent have instilled in them the ability to listen
to those that care about them and to consider what advice they are given. As an adult the actual decision needs to be theirs. I realize that this isn't the advise that you were wanting to hear. I would submit that what is important is that they know and believe that regardless of their decision that you as a parent will be there for them if needed. Children seem to learn best by doing. Regardless of the outcome of that doing process.

Just my thought on the subject.


Jeff


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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Ll on 09-01-18 00:00 <=-

Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not
been here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old
daugher who keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?

Is she living at home still...?

Lots of things can play into situations like this... my son finally
figured out how to manage his money better when he was off on his own...
but sometimes that doesn't work, either...

ttyl neb

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# RF> Just checking in to see what is on going on in this echo. Have not
# RF> been here in a while. Anyone got advice on dealing with 20yr old
# RF> daugher who keeps spending all her pay check and saves nothing?
#
# Handcuffs.... :)

I like that idea, but I can see the fault in that logic (;-0


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# At some point a parent has to allow their son/daughter to make their own
# decisions. Those decisions may be either for the better or for the worse. One # can only hope that you as a parent have instilled in them the ability to
# listen
# to those that care about them and to consider what advice they are given. A # an adult the actual decision needs to be theirs. I realize that this isn't th # advise that you were wanting to hear. I would submit that what is important i # that they know and believe that regardless of their decision that you as a
# parent will be there for them if needed. Children seem to learn best by doing # Regardless of the outcome of that doing process.

I suspect that you are right, it is what I've been thinking, but it is
hard as hell to get out of this protective mode I've been in for a very
long time. Thanks.


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# Is she living at home still...?
#
# Lots of things can play into situations like this... my son finally
# figured out how to manage his money better when he was off on his own...
# but sometimes that doesn't work, either...

She is now, she was managing her money with her room mate to pay for food
and other stuff, not sure how much she contributed to that situation. Now
I have encouraged her to put away funds for when she will need them instad
of willy nilly spending. But like someone else already stated the best
lessons learned are those you learn on your own.

Thanks Nancy,


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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Ancy Backus on 09-05-18 00:00 <=-

# Is she living at home still...?
# Lots of things can play into situations like this... my son finally
# figured out how to manage his money better when he was off on his
# own... but sometimes that doesn't work, either...

She is now, she was managing her money with her room mate to pay for
food and other stuff, not sure how much she contributed to that
situation. Now I have encouraged her to put away funds for when she
will need them instead of willy nilly spending. But like someone else already stated the best lessons learned are those you learn on your
own.

That usually is the case.... One can't really dictate to adult children
what to do, one can only advise.... I've heard of parents that decided
to charge their adult child rent... and then put that into a savings
account for them for later.... but that wouldn't necessarily teach her
the real lesson of doing that for herself.... just be a form of enforced savings... that she'd not know about until later....

ttyl neb

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Hello Ruben,

# I would submit that what is important
# that they know and believe that regardless of their decision that you as a # parent will be there for them if needed. Children seem to learn best by
# doing. Regardless of the outcome of that doing process.

I suspect that you are right, it is what I've been thinking, but it is
hard as hell to get out of this protective mode I've been in for a very
long time. Thanks.

Trust me... A parent never really gets out of that protective mode. My kids are
grown and parents themselves. And I still feel the urge to try to protect them.



Jeff

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On 09/09/18, Jeff Smith said the following...

Trust me... A parent never really gets out of that protective mode. My kids are grown and parents themselves. And I still feel the urge to try
to protect them.

Agreed....then you have the added 'bonus' to feel that way about your grandkids. Swear... wish there was a mental pill for Dad-Stress! :(

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